For many, Memorial Day marks the beginning of summer. The end of the school year and beginning of lake trips and get-togethers with family and friends.

For most, it is a day to look forward to the summer ahead. Perhaps it is ironic that this weekend of celebration is anchored by a day intended for solemnity and intended to remember the past.

Memorial Day is our nation’s day to remember those who perished giving their all for the nation they loved. Its inception began with families remembering those who died at the end of a war we fought within our own borders, a war fought between states, amongst brothers, that left 600,000 dead, missing from families, graves to be adorned.

It was the simple act of honoring and adorning soldiers’ graves with the flowers of May that gave birth to Decoration Day. Now known as Memorial Day, it was officially observed the first time on May 30, 1868, at Arlington National Cemetery. It was a date not selected as the anniversary of a battle, but because the flowers would be in bloom all over the country, so everyone could recognize the fallen soldiers.

It is not a day to commemorate war. It is a day to celebrate valor and patriotism, to decorate the graves as a reminder of the costs of war, and to commemorate the lives sacrificed by men and women, and it is also a day to grieve with those left behind.

I paraphrase Gen. John Logan at the first Decoration Day, “We should not only remember those ‘who died in defense of their country,’ but to also ‘renew our pledges to aid and assist those whom they have left among us…the widows and orphans.’”

To these Gold Star families, Memorial Day is particularly sacred. To them, the loss is tangible by a missing family member and a chair at tables that remains unfilled.

Last year, many of our Gold Star families stood alone on Memorial Day due to pandemic restrictions.

This year as pandemic restrictions begin to lessen, we hope to stand once again in decorated cemeteries among our fallen service members, in solidarity with Gold Star families. It’s important that we all do what we can to remember the importance of Memorial Day, and the sacrifices of the fallen.

Attend a local event, observe the National Moment of Remembrance at 3 p.m., pause for one minute to remember and reflect. As President Calvin Coolidge stated after the end of World War I, “The nation which forgets its defenders will itself be forgotten.”

The observance of this day is so important, we must never forget the blood that has been paid to get us to where we are.

Maj. Gen. Shawn Manke is as adjutant general of the Minnesota National Guard. He served in the active Army in Germany, Iraq and Texas.