I still find each day too short

for all the thoughts I want to think, all the walks I want to take,

the books I want to read,

and the friends I want to see.

–John Burroughs

I’m not at all sure when it happened, because I used to be a political animal of sorts. During the years I was a student I consistently ran for various leadership positions and won. I enjoyed the campaigning, hashing out the issues, and the companionship of those who debated with me. I liked organizing programs and working with people.

Today, I wouldn’t run for public office if my life depended on it. It’s too brutal a world for me. I’m increasingly astonished at the nastiness and sarcasm; the soundbites and the wordsmithing. Public perception. Financial resources. Business associations and private agreements. People waiting to pounce on candidates the moment they misspeak.

This election season I hit mute on my remote and steer my eyes away from the signage. Careful and respectful consideration of all the candidates for me must happen in relative quiet, away from the shouting.

In the years since I campaigned, I’ve made some decisions that feel comfortable for me. Quite frankly I’d rather write in relative obscurity than place myself in arenas that would make me the center of attention. I have come to realize that thoughtful, enlightened people will come to different conclusions about issues and I can live with that.

I don’t want to fight; I want to serve. I want to have time and energy for the people in my life. I want to give each one the consideration they deserve.

Some would call this friendship and I’m learning that the value of a treasured friend is beyond measure. Friends are a great benefit, for they provide expanded perspectives. No matter how gifted and centered you may be, there will be days when you are exhausted and lost; when fresh thoughts and a new direction is desired.

Friends hold you accountable when you ask; they allow you to be vulnerable and transparent. They ask helpful questions you may be afraid to ask yourself and catch you when you fall.

Friends can be great company. They help you escape loneliness and can offer healthy distractions when life hurts. They laugh with you and cry with you. They listen even when they are confused by you. They choose to spend time with you when you are not in your best form.

Friends provide a safe place for you to vent. They are willing to listen when you are annoyed by life and hurt by the injustices that inevitably happen. They follow up with prayers and suggest plans for recovery. Friends provide a safety net.

Friends provide encouragement when your hope is momentarily gone, your energy low, and your future looks too hard to go it alone. Friends share their experiences and remind you that feelings are momentary. Life is dynamic and circumstances never stay the same.

The plan for the week? Phone a friend.

Reach Joan Bay Klope, faithfulliving@hotmail.com.